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Mar 28 2007

The 4 laws of energetic attraction: how to radically improve your health and relationships by bringing positive people and situations into your life 4

by Judith Orloff posted at 11:11 am under Manifesting Abundance

LAW NO. 4: Soulful giving generates abundance

GIVING IS SUPPOSED TO FEEL GOOD; IF NOT, SOMETHING’S WRONG. Soulful giving enlarges your capacity to be more caring–you give for the joy of it, expecting nothing in return. In contrast, codependent giving bleeds life force; it’s driven by obligation, guilt or a martyr-complex, and it leaves the giver feeling sucked dry, unappreciated and put upon.

You want to give for reasons that energize you, not because you’re taking inappropriate responsibility for others. The following strategies will generate bountiful vibes for you and the receiver. If you give from your heart, your vitality will soar.

Give spontaneously.

Any time is right to offer simple tokens of appreciation to friends or colleagues: a candle, rose, small plant, fragrant soap or funny card. (But don’t overdo it.)

Distinguish “good” from “bad” gifts.

A good gift matches the recipient’s needs, not just the giver’s wants. A bad gift symbolizes what you want the person to be–getting your girlfriend a Thighmaster or your mate a utilitarian appliance. A bad gift is also one that’s perceived as a bribe or aimed at securing some favor.

Choose gifts that resonate.

If you feel strongly about a gift, trust the force that’s compelling you. At age 11, I spotted a wood carving of two majestic horses. Somehow, I knew it belonged to my father, so I used every penny of my saved-up allowance to buy it. He treasured the horses; they hung above his desk for 30 years.

Give anonymously.

Walk an old lady across the street; hold open an elevator; let a car go before you in traffic; or do something nice behind the scenes for someone, but don’t get found out. Such good deeds add light to your energy field and ultimately draw the same goodness back to you. As a 14-year-old friend told me, “The best way to cheer yourself up is to cheer up someone else.”

Use these “laws” to mobilize excellence and kindness in your relationships. Emphatically say “no” to anything that doesn’t further the heart. Cheer each success. Don’t cheat your joy by jumping too quickly to the next ambition. Instead, pledge to value even the tiniest of triumphs. That’s what the art of positive living is about.

to be continued….

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