Nov 20 2008
Sabotage Self-Worth — A Deeper Perspective on Love Your Neighbour Like Yourself Part 1
The majority of individuals refuse to acknowledge that they do need to improve their self-worth, self-esteem, self-image and self-respect not to even think of the expanded concepts of loving, accepting, blessing, acknowledging and honouring themselves.
Developing self-worth and self-love is not just for those with poverty or victim consciousness. Every single human being has a need to improve self-love, self-responsibility and self-empowerment, otherwise there would be no problems in the world — there would be no victims and there would be no perpetrators , there would be no suffering, hardship, punishment and struggling with ‘just enough to survive’. Because one may appear to look good on the outside, or if one may have material wealth, if one has a good job with ample income, if one can speak proudly or if one has egotistically embarrassing experiences there is still a need to honour and love the self to the state of where you have total unconditional love, total acceptance of all things, total compassion, ‘know-no-agenda’ and have complete respect and honour for everything and everyone.
Have you ever heard of the phrase “Love your neighbour like yourself”!
Does this create a contradiction deep within you? Do you think that there is a deeper meaning to this phrase? If you allow yourself to wander for a moment, can you see with clarity beyond this concepts, to the true meaning, the energy structure — to see beyond the present understanding of this commandment?
Look at the conflicts and wars within the mass consciousness world and then look at your own experiences. Can you see how each individual person in your environment perceives, belittles and judges others, with very little care and attention? Can you see that same quality in how they treat themselves? They act and react with that same behaviour. Do you realize that they are one and the same? Humanity cannot live the principle of ‘love thy neighbour like thyself’ within their community. Society’s conditioning, facades, benchmarks and dogmas behold this concept and make the outer world think that, as adults, they are treating their neighbour with love and kindness – truly they are not!
Beneath the surface, what are your feelings, your thoughts, beliefs and judgments about your neighbour, family, or the other cultures around the world? Is there prejudice or are you putting on a false front, a façade? What role models do you teach your children to adapt and to adopt as their own?
Can you see that within each individual, and even within yourself – there is a part that belittles and abuses yourself? This part does not accept some aspect of the self in some way – whether it is emotionally, physically or spiritually. Do you see that individuals blame everything else outside of the self for their issues and misfortune? Does that apply to you also? It is another’s fault for the experiences that you are having? Do you see that nearly every person seeks advice and validation to something or another outside of self — that something or someone else is smarter, grander, more skilled and superior to them, therefore stating that they are indeed inferior and untrusting to search for their own answers? Do you also?
Can you begin to question this perception, looking at the energy structure – beyond a logical mind?
To treat a neighbour or any other person with unconditional love, compassion, respect, care and kindness, you first have to treat yourself with love, compassion, respect, care and kindness. You must be the full vessel. Then, the inner loving energy vibrations can be projected out through your behavioural patterns and through your actions. Your consciousness projects out the loving energy quality or the unloving trait way beyond a façade. It will be returned to you, as you will receive what you give out – even if you are not aware of your inner feelings and beliefs.
Energy is reflected from the inner to the outer. You must have that quality within you – in your core belief structure – to attract and experience that quality in your outer reality. You are what you think, feel and believe in. You are how you see yourself – which is reflected in your body and in your experiences! If you feel unworthy, unloved or picked on, being a victim of society’s frustrations, you have to look at yourself. If you become a victim of fate or circumstances, it is your responsibility, for you are unconsciously attracting that quality to you! Your abuser is mirroring an aspect of you of how you see and treat yourself, deep at your unconscious level.
Two Steps to Observe
1. Firstly, you must accept the responsibility for your own actions for they are your creations.
2. Secondly, through observing your thoughts, feelings and experiences, and through observing the building-creating processes and the destructive-destroying processes within you, you will see how your belief system – your inner energy structure is formed.
How can you love your neighbour if you don’t love yourself first? And how can you love yourself, if you criticises, belittle, condemn, disrespect, abuse, self-destruct, self-indulge and judge yourself? If you indulge in attachments, obsessions and addictions, habits or bad moody behaviours, how can you accept, respect and love another? If you do not like what you do, or what you look like or who you are, or if you have an agenda of how life should be – how can you do otherwise for another?
