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May 18 2008

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Kim McGinnis

Self Actualization - A 9 Step Process

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Abraham Maslow was a man before his time. He was intelligent enough to study healthy and productive people, while the trend in psychology is to study people of the mentally unstable variety. His approach was more scientific than philosophical, and so his work is studied extensively in Psychology classes around the world - and for good reason. Maslow helped bridge the gap between science and spirituality. In other words, he added respect to the study of the spirit, and added humanity to science.

In culmination of his 20 years of research, Maslow came to believe that in order for one to become self-actualized a person had to think of themselves as an open vessel-like the elements of nature. To be like nature, that person should have the capacity for two things: self-exploration and taking action.

The following nine steps may help get you there:

1. Allow yourself to be fully in the moment. When you participate in an activity so that your whole focus is on the task at hand you are in the flow. When you become one with source energy you will have this divine energy at your disposal. For this reason, your activity will be a zen gift from the universe.

2. Begin to be aware of what life is bringing to the table, and make choices that serve your best interests. The choices you make will be easy because your intuition (our inner source) is so highly tuned that it never fails to steer you wrong. A trust will be developed so that you realize even though your choice will be more challenging (with a risk attached) the outcome will leave you in a better place.

3. Become adept at keeping your ego at bay. Do not allow yourself to become a slave to other people’s wishes, and be at ease bringing your true self out in the physical world.

4. Live in humility and integrity. Forgive yourself and forgive others. When you make a choice that did not serve you or others as you thought it would, own it. Take responsibility for where you are and what shows up for you.

5. Be prepared to live on an island. Know some of your decisions will be unpopular, but proceed with them anyway. Approval seeking is not the way for you. Take actions that are creative and brave.

6. Trust your instincts while listening to your intelligence. Study in your field of choice. Your ability to deduce will work with your gut to give you a well-balanced appraisal of any particular situation.

7. Be specific in your desires and know that you are able to attract them. Do not bother with trying to attain things that fall in the category of illusion. Use the universal law of attraction with ease, yet keep your feet are firmly planted on the ground.

8. Know who you are and what you are capable of doing. Your strength is in being, and from there you are unstoppable. Allow your actions to be inspired. Be like the zen fireflies and express your freedom with your internal dance. Follow that inner guidance. Understand and respect the power that you have, and be equally respectful of the fact that others have this power at their disposal.

9. Live with compassion, knowing that others may experience difficulty in accessing this source. Have a strong moral compass. Live your life with the purest of intention, and realize this is the best way to serve others.

If you can practice these steps with consistency, Abraham Maslow would picture you as self-actualized. He was a wise man. Maslow passed in 1970, but his work lives on. In this quote from Abraham Maslow he shows his respect for both the spiritual and the scientific nature of the human being:

“Self Actualization is the intrinsic growth of what is already in the organism, or more accurately, of what the organism is.”

Be one with nature and with the magical fireflies that move the night air. From here you will be in a position to move others.

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Jan 26 2008

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Laura De Giorgio

Develop Your Intuition

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Honing your intuition can help you in making better choices in life because the more information you have about something, the better decisions you can make, the faster you may be able to reach your goals, and enable yourself to live more fulfilling life.

Intuition is defined as the power or ability of attaining direct knowledge or cognition without evident rational thought and inference. Intuitive knowledge is considered to be knowledge which cannot be gained either by inference or observation, by reasoning or past experience. As such intuitive knowledge is thought of as independent, original knowledge.

Many years ago I was in a coffee shop where I overheard a man having a spirited and very loud conversation with someone about the nature of intuition. He argued that intuitive knowledge is based on observational skills. While the information obtained through observational skills is excluded from the above definition about intuition, many times people do acquire tremendous amount of information purely through observation and then they appear to be “psychic”. Many “fake psychics” simply rely on their observational skills. These skills are also known as “cold reading” and are employed by stage magicians.

Our subconscious minds register all information from our surroundings and most of that information is gathered outside our conscious awareness. When some of that information emerges in our conscious awareness, it may seem that it came from higher realms because we had no awareness of ever acquiring it consciously.

People who are working on developing their intuition often practice different ways of improving their observational skills. Honing one’s observational skills is one of the essential skills in the practice of Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP), where you learn to pay attention to minute changes in skin color, pupil dilation, slight changes in lip size, referred to in NLP as “minimal cues”. These skills come in very handy when people play poker, for example. Since poker players have vested financial interest in the outcome of the game, they pay attention to “minimal cues” of other players, in order to notice when other players may be bluffing or when they might have a winning hand.

NLP Practitioners sometimes engage in the following exercise, which I believe started with Dr. Milton Erickson. One person would hide an object, and the other would play the role of a “psychic” by holding the wrist of the person who hid the object. The “psychic” would rely on slight changes in the pulse of the person who hid the object, to guide him toward the recovery of the hidden object.

Some people are more “intuitive” by nature. Some are intuitive in a way that they find it easier to absorb the information from their environment through what seems like osmosis. They may have difficulty focusing on one thing and may be labeled with attention deficit disorder, yet their way of processing information may be perfectly suited to certain occupations. For example, I have a friend who is an extraordinary private investigator. He excels at what he does perhaps mainly due to his ability of being aware of the information that other private investigators miss. He naturally absorbs information from the environment as if thorough osmosis. From the perspective of brainwaves, people with this talent have predominant theta brainwave activity.

Some people are more naturally intuitive in a way that they can access the information related to different times, places or dimensions of experience, which are clearly not in any way associated with where they may be physically. On the level of the mind, there is no time and no space and we are all free to access the information about anything we greatly desire to know, from any dimension of existence, from past, present or future. The only obstacle in this process are the “filters” we have placed in our subconscious minds.

The secret in acquiring this kind of information is in allowing it to emerge into your conscious awareness, in having your mind blank, open and receptive like a crystal clear glass, so that the information gained is not colored by your preconceived ideas or emotions. Genuine spiritual masters, who have no more any self-interests, who have nothing more to emotionally protect and have fully opened themselves to the infinite, can access the information that to the rest of us borders on miraculous. On the other hand, there are so many people who may be “channelingl” the information from different realms, however the information that comes through is polluted by their own preconceived ideas and is no better than any guess they might have made based on their rational understanding. True spiritual knowledge is always rooted in love and in the principle of oneness - there are no exceptions.

We are all intuitive to a greater or lesser extent and whatever your level of intuitive ability, you can develop it further. Developing intuition is based on learning to pay attention to the information within you. For example, if you were trying to decide between two job offers, as you imagine yourself working in one position and then in the other, the right choice would look brighter, it would feel more joyous, it would make you feel lighter and it would bring with it a great experience of inner peace and contentment. If you were picking lottery numbers or stocks in which you desire to invest, or winning horses at the racetrack - again through experience you would learn to distinguish between the information that comes from your intuitive knowledge and the one that comes from your rational mind. As a general guideline, when this information comes from your rational mind there is a sensation of tension, a sensation of your energy shrinking and condensing as you are subconsciously trying to protect your financial self-interest. When you are in a state of mind where you are trying to protect your ego-based self-interests, you are closing the door of your intuition. What opens you to your intuition is getting into a state of love, into a state of giving, into a state of relaxation and expansion, where you feel at-one-with-everything and particularly at-one with the subject of your intuition., where you become it inwardly.

One simple way of practicing intuition on daily basis is choosing for practice subjects in which you don’t have any vested interest and the outcome is not important for you. This makes it easier for you to maintain an open state of mind necessary for practicing intuition. You may try to intuit what someone you are going to meet is wearing, or if the phone rings who may be calling you, or if you are going to some new place, try to intuit how does that place look like before you go there; or you can pick a magazine with pictures and try to intuit what picture or information will you find several pages ahead. In this way you will condition your subconscious mind to provide you with the information that is not ordinarily accessible to you through your physical senses.

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