Manifesting with the Law of Attraction

“If your love life needs a quick boost, you can use the art of placement to produce the romantic results you desire.” Heidi Richards

Feng Shui (pronounced fung shway) is the ancient Asian practice of object arrangement and space planning designed to bring balance, harmony and well-being to your environment. Its purpose is to enhance prosperity, creative, health and romance. Feng Shui fortifies a home with positive energy known as chi. The attainment of positive chi is both an art and a blessing to those who manifest that chi. The word “feng” means wind and “shui” means water, each one associated with a good harvest and ultimate good health or good fortune.

If your love life needs a quick boost, you can use the art of placement to produce the romantic results you desire. Relationships need the proper environment to grow. They need the balance of the five elements, too much or too little will find the romance wither. Here are some Feng Shui tips to enhance your romantic space:

1. The first thing you must do is remove clutter out of your romance area (generally this is the bedroom). That means you must remove trash, dirty ashtrays, dead plants and nothing should be stored under the bed. Dust and cobwebs on the fans, walls, light fixtures and ceilings should be cleaned away.

2. Enhance your space with romance colors, such as shades of pinks, reds and whites. Guys, this does not mean it has to be feminine. You can use maroon, grayish tones of pinks and whites to achieve the same results. The key is to not use any one color so much that it overpowers the others. Other good colors include browns, beiges, lavenders, yellows and deeper shades of those are appropriate.

3. If you keep flowers in the room (an excellent way to attract romance into your life), make sure they are always fresh. At the first sign of wilting, toss them out. Silk flowers are an okay alternative, provided they are free of dust. Absolutely no dried flowers as they signify death. Also, make sure the roses are de-thorned. Nothing prickly such as cactus, unless your goal is to break-up.

4. In Feng Shui a Relationship Altar positively stimulates a relationship. Designate a special place in your romance area in which to put items that will encourage a healthy, loving relationship. Things to include in your relationship altar can include a heart shaped pink crystal quartz, a pair of candles, mandarin ducks.

5. Use the Pairs Principle to encourage love. That means two candles, two nightstands, two lights on top, two potted plants, two pillows, two chairs, etc. The Chinese symbol for love is Mandarin ducks. They signify love, romance, fidelity, affection, and loyalty in love.

6. Your bed should be placed in the commanding position of the room. This is to permit the widest possible vision. The door or entry to the room should be easily seen from the bed. And the head of the bed should be against a wall or against a corner. If you have nightstands, make sure one is on either side (a pair) and that the bed is accessible on three sides to attract and keep a partner. The bed should not be placed under a window.

7. The bedroom is for sleep and intimacy. No one should come into your room without your invitation. There should be no distractions such as workout equipment, a television, things that would remind you of work.

8. It is good to hang pink (heart-shaped) crystals and wind chimes in a sunny window to attract good love energy (yang).

9. Pictures of you as a child, your children or other relatives should also be removed from the bedroom or romance area. This space should be reserved for couples and should only display pictures of the two of you.

10. Dim lights will give the room a warm, inviting feeling. No harsh fluorescents or high wattage lighting, here.

While this is by no means the ultimate guide to Feng Shui for Romance, it is a good start. These ten tips will give your relationship area the boost it deserves and your romance the fulfillment it requires. Altar your space and you will altar your love life.

© 2005 Excerpted from the book, Romance on a Budget – www.romanceonabudget.net.

Heidi Richards is an Author, Professional Speaker, and Business Mentor. She is the owner of Eden Florist & Gift Baskets – www.edenflorist.com and the Founder & CEO of the Women’s ECommerce Association, International www.WECAI.org – an Internet organization that “Helps Women Do Business on the WEB.” BASIC Membership is Free. She can be reached at heidi@edenflorist.com.

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The consciousness of your energy structure unconsciously projects out what is going on at your deep core level. A façade cannot hide your fears and your baggage. These are the inner conflicting qualities that are projecting out into the community. They are seen within family feuds, community bickering, bureaucratic rules, the serpents of society and global wars.

7 Points on how does ‘not loving yourself’ play out in your world?

* Not loving yourself is contaminating your body with chemicals from inhaling/eating toxic substances that gives a highly addictive-abusive quality that self-destructs the physical.

* Not loving yourself is drinking fluids that produce a drunken lethargic body that does not want to exercise. * Not loving yourself is indulging in foods – the rich sweets and fast foods — the pick-me-ups that produce a swollen gas-filled belly and to store a cloth of fat to protect yourself from not being loved by yourself.

* Not loving yourself is having moods of back stabbing squabbles, snorting in judgmental discontent and creating the bad habits of fighting, manipulating and controlling others in your world.

* Not loving yourself is allowing others to control you, to feed off you, to disempower you to enslave your energy through judgments, appeasement, agendas, obligation and compromise.

* Not loving yourself is feeding yourself with complaining, festering fearful thoughts of belittlement, judgment, disliking self from out-dated and worn-out beliefs or even being physically or mentally attached and obsessed to something or a dependent relationship outside of yourself.

* Not loving yourself is thinking that you do not deserve something, that you must be punished for a sin or error, and that you are not allowing yourself to receive the abundance and the empowerment that you can claim. Your heart cries out to receive your worth. Instead you live with ‘just enough to survive’ that is filled with suffering, hardship and effort — a belief in ‘no pain — no gain’.

The Dualistic Imbalance

* At one over-inflated level of the ego – not loving yourself can contain force, greed and power, through the fear of not being in control and ownership over yourself. It then takes on a quality of trying to control, force, fight, steal and feed-off others to get what you want–to gain love.

* At the bottom level of a squashed ego–not loving yourself is having unworthy, disempowering and self-denial, ‘just enough’ concepts. It is about lacking physical pleasures and comforts that lead to poverty – instead of living in a wonderful abundant environment.

Then what is the deeper energy involved in self-love?

Self-love is not vanity, selfishness or arrogance! All these negative qualities are not love. They are a FEAR!

The fear for you not to love yourself is an imbalance and a lack. It is an over inflated poor self-esteem or a low self-worth inflicted by an unbalanced egotistical intellect, reinforced by mass consciousness hypnotic belief system and overlays. It allows inferiority and unworthiness to surface – to be replaced by an ‘instead’. These issues bring a feeling that you are not good enough, that you have done something wrong, that you feel that you have sinned, a mistake by your creations, an a high power force must save you — and that has created karma of cause and effect. You think you need to be punished for your mistakes and therefore you need to suffer. Look at the world and you will see suffering, hardship, punishment and struggling with ‘just enough to survive’. Then you feel that you don’t deserve. This leaves you with a feeling of guilt, shame and resistance – a destructive energy that destroys what you have built. Resistance brings pain and pain brings suffering – is a rigid belief system of an unbalanced perceptions.

The fear of the indoctrinated belief that self-love is vain, selfish and egotistical to love yourself has allowed you to accept these fearful rules, taught conditions and dogmatic standards within mass consciousness as being true for you. To serve others first and not to love the self was written in the scriptures to bring fear, control and greed upon the masses. The consciousness at the time was low, cruel, barbaric and harsh and it was appropriate at the time. Times have changed; consciousness has risen in a modern technological era, to where these handed down beliefs do not serve you anymore.

When you cannot love and accept yourself, when you are angry, spiteful, jealous and judgmental etc, you are an empty vessel and an empty vessel has nothing to give other than your fearful baggage, agendas and burdens. Yet an empty vessel cannot receive love and abundance because you are in so much denial of accepting yourself or of trying to give everything to others that you ‘miss the boat’ — so to speak and ignore any opportunities that come your way to receive. When you keep giving to others, and you cannot receive you will begin to complain, stating that ‘no one supports you’ that ‘no one appreciates what you do’ and so on.

It is time to let go of old way, old belief structures that have been passed down for centuries. By learning to love yourself, to accept yourself, to honour your 100 percent worth that you have inherited since birth, you will realize that all of your experiences have been about the percentage level of how you have seen yourself, how you have treated yourself and how much you thought you deserved something. Now with a new expanded perception you can still love the worth of yourself without feeding off and disempowering or stealing energies from others and vice versa. The balance is just that — ‘you can have your cake and eat it’ — you can love yourself, you can give yourself the treasures of what life has to offer and you can give that to others along with your compassion, acceptance, honour and blessings and to serve others too if and when they choose to accept it.

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The majority of individuals refuse to acknowledge that they do need to improve their self-worth, self-esteem, self-image and self-respect not to even think of the expanded concepts of loving, accepting, blessing, acknowledging and honouring themselves.

Developing self-worth and self-love is not just for those with poverty or victim consciousness. Every single human being has a need to improve self-love, self-responsibility and self-empowerment, otherwise there would be no problems in the world — there would be no victims and there would be no perpetrators , there would be no suffering, hardship, punishment and struggling with ‘just enough to survive’. Because one may appear to look good on the outside, or if one may have material wealth, if one has a good job with ample income, if one can speak proudly or if one has egotistically embarrassing experiences there is still a need to honour and love the self to the state of where you have total unconditional love, total acceptance of all things, total compassion, ‘know-no-agenda’ and have complete respect and honour for everything and everyone.

Have you ever heard of the phrase “Love your neighbour like yourself”!

Does this create a contradiction deep within you? Do you think that there is a deeper meaning to this phrase? If you allow yourself to wander for a moment, can you see with clarity beyond this concepts, to the true meaning, the energy structure — to see beyond the present understanding of this commandment?

Look at the conflicts and wars within the mass consciousness world and then look at your own experiences. Can you see how each individual person in your environment perceives, belittles and judges others, with very little care and attention? Can you see that same quality in how they treat themselves? They act and react with that same behaviour. Do you realize that they are one and the same? Humanity cannot live the principle of ‘love thy neighbour like thyself’ within their community. Society’s conditioning, facades, benchmarks and dogmas behold this concept and make the outer world think that, as adults, they are treating their neighbour with love and kindness – truly they are not!

Beneath the surface, what are your feelings, your thoughts, beliefs and judgments about your neighbour, family, or the other cultures around the world? Is there prejudice or are you putting on a false front, a façade? What role models do you teach your children to adapt and to adopt as their own?

Can you see that within each individual, and even within yourself – there is a part that belittles and abuses yourself? This part does not accept some aspect of the self in some way – whether it is emotionally, physically or spiritually. Do you see that individuals blame everything else outside of the self for their issues and misfortune? Does that apply to you also? It is another’s fault for the experiences that you are having? Do you see that nearly every person seeks advice and validation to something or another outside of self — that something or someone else is smarter, grander, more skilled and superior to them, therefore stating that they are indeed inferior and untrusting to search for their own answers? Do you also?

Can you begin to question this perception, looking at the energy structure – beyond a logical mind?

To treat a neighbour or any other person with unconditional love, compassion, respect, care and kindness, you first have to treat yourself with love, compassion, respect, care and kindness. You must be the full vessel. Then, the inner loving energy vibrations can be projected out through your behavioural patterns and through your actions. Your consciousness projects out the loving energy quality or the unloving trait way beyond a façade. It will be returned to you, as you will receive what you give out – even if you are not aware of your inner feelings and beliefs.

Energy is reflected from the inner to the outer. You must have that quality within you – in your core belief structure – to attract and experience that quality in your outer reality. You are what you think, feel and believe in. You are how you see yourself – which is reflected in your body and in your experiences! If you feel unworthy, unloved or picked on, being a victim of society’s frustrations, you have to look at yourself. If you become a victim of fate or circumstances, it is your responsibility, for you are unconsciously attracting that quality to you! Your abuser is mirroring an aspect of you of how you see and treat yourself, deep at your unconscious level.

Two Steps to Observe

1. Firstly, you must accept the responsibility for your own actions for they are your creations.

2. Secondly, through observing your thoughts, feelings and experiences, and through observing the building-creating processes and the destructive-destroying processes within you, you will see how your belief system – your inner energy structure is formed.

How can you love your neighbour if you don’t love yourself first? And how can you love yourself, if you criticises, belittle, condemn, disrespect, abuse, self-destruct, self-indulge and judge yourself? If you indulge in attachments, obsessions and addictions, habits or bad moody behaviours, how can you accept, respect and love another? If you do not like what you do, or what you look like or who you are, or if you have an agenda of how life should be – how can you do otherwise for another?

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