Manifesting with the Law of Attraction

LAW NO. 3: Seeing the beauty and goodness in people magnetizes them.

INSTEAD OF REFLEXIVELY ACCENTUATING THE WORST IN A PERSON OR SITUATION, CHOOSE TO ENERGIZE POSITIVE QUALITIES. The object isn’t to flatter, make nice, be politically correct or ignore intuitive red flags–nor to deny someone’s dark side or placate abusers. Your goal is to mine the gold in positive relationships and elevate the communication in more difficult ones.

When I intuitively read someone’s energy, I see it as crystal-clear light with an intelligence that responds when recognized. When I say to a depressed patient, “You have shown incredible courage,” a little flame in him starts flickering. “I’m here,” his courage cries from a distance. Or if I remark, “You look lovely today,” to a patient who’s insanely stressed, immediately a part in her softens.

We’re all starving to have the goodness in us acknowledged. If you want to connect with someone, notice his or her assets. Let’s say a co-worker is snitty. Realize that happy people don’t act this way. So instead of being shitty back or constantly miffed, redirect the energy. Comment on the long hours she puts in, or her dynamite shoes. Use this approach for a week–as well as the ones below–and watch the vibes change.

Tell at least two people you love what you’re grateful for about them.

Tell at least two people you don’t love what you’re grateful for about them.

Adjust your perception. Spend an afternoon noticing the goodness and beauty of everyone you meet.

Praise other people’s abilities. Say to a gas-station attendant or cashier, “You’re doing a great job,” magic words that can make a person’s day. Move on to your mate, co-workers or friends.

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Adapted from Positive Energy by Judith Orloff, M.D. http://www.drjudithorloff.com. Judith Orloff, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist and assistant professor of psychiatry at UCLA who presents workshops and lectures throughout the world. She is also a bestselling author.

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These six positive affirmations, devised by renowned couples’ counselors, can help you reprogram yourself to invite more genuine love into your life. You can print the affirmations out and post them in different places that you frequent during your daily routine, such as your dashboard or your refrigerator or beside your bed.

Here are the six concepts, or affirmations, for having more love in your life:

1. I give and receive love effortlessly.

2. Genuine love comes to me effortlessly.

3. I feel loved and loving all the time.

4. I release the pain of my unpleasant experiences in love.

5. I commit to loving and feeling loved all the time.

6. I live in expanding waves of love and creativity.

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From Attracting Genuine Love by Gay & Kathleen Hendricks. For nearly 30 years, in their workshops and one-on-one counseling sessions, Gay and Kathleen Hendricks have helped thousands of singles find lasting, fulfilling love. They have been able to assist people in opening to more creativity, love and vitality—through the power of conscious relationship and whole-person learning. They are passionately committed to creating a worldwide community of people with whom they can explore new heights of love, creativity and wellbeing.

LAW NO. 2: Intuition clarifies smart choices.

RELATIONSHIPS ARE TRICKY; THEY CAN BE A BIG BLUR EVEN WHEN YOUR EYES ARE OPEN. We’ve learned to draw conclusions from surface data: how nice someone seems, looks or is educated, or how a situation adds up on paper. But attraction goes deeper; to make it work for you, other ingredients must be considered. Respect your intuitions about relationships and identify those that highlight compatible matches.

What may obscure the picture is anxiety or intense sexual attraction. If so, go slow until you get a keener intuitive read. (See “Accentuate the Positive” on page 101) These exercises train you to act from instinct, not impulse.

Tune in.

Choose a relationship or situation that needs clarification–perhaps you’re confused about a friendship or vacation. Run it by your intuition criteria: Do you feel troubled and nervous or energized and safe?

Act on vibes.

Insecurity, ego, lust or stubbornness can obscure your better judgment. (Sometimes it takes succumbing to them all to realize you won’t tolerate such battering again.) If the vibes feel positive, explore the possibilities. If the vibes are mixed, take a pass or at least wait. If all you sense is negative, have the courage to walk away, no matter how tempting the option seems. Then observe how listening to energy in this way leads you to the juiciest opportunities.

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Adapted from Positive Energy by Judith Orloff, M.D. http://www.drjudithorloff.com. Judith Orloff, M.D., is a board-certified psychiatrist and assistant professor of psychiatry at UCLA who presents workshops and lectures throughout the world. She is also a bestselling author.

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